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Love is the Answer

Loveby Ruth, PIN: 2022

Just recently, a young man sought spiritual counselling from me. He said that everything had gone wrong in his life all at the same time. He had fallen out with his immediate family, had lost his job, had financial worries and his relationship with his partner had fallen apart. He felt it was ‘game over’ and that he had ‘lost the plot’. I congratulated him for being so brave and honest and told him that actually, it was the total opposite of what he believed and that he had already arrived at a point of true and total surrender. He was able to realise on a deeper level that he must start a ‘new game’ and follow a ‘new plot’.

He said that he didn’t really know why he was speaking to me and seeking my help because he didn’t believe he had a Soul; he didn’t believe in the Spirit World, Angels, or Jesus and all that stuff. I asked him what his perception of God was. He said he thought he’d made it perfectly clear that he didn’t believe in God. I asked him “so you don’t believe in yourself or your own Spirit then?” He replied angrily “I didn’t say that.” “Anyway if there is a God, surely he must be responsible for all the terrible things that happen to me and to other people.” “I’m fed up with everything going wrong, world wars, and hatred and all that junk.” I replied that “God wasn’t responsible for anything.” I volunteered the opinion that “God wasn’t a man on a cloud somewhere up high sitting in judgement of us, but that God is the Divine, and is the Universal Life Force within us and every living thing. Therefore we hold that Divine light within us so we are in judgement of ourselves and we are responsible for all our actions and the consequences thereof whether it be good, bad, right or wrong.”

He said “I don’t believe in people, or relationships, or love, or being happy.” I said that “The most important relationship you will ever have with anyone is the one with yourself. So we have to love, understand and forgive ourselves first.”

I told him that I believed life on Earth to be a precious gift, even though planet Earth is the toughest training ground of all for the evolution of our Souls, but for some reason we are still destined to be born into it.

He said he didn’t know what the answer could be. I said to him that he might look at things from a different angle or perspective, and stop overanalysing everything. Do away with the confusion because:

“Whatever the question is, love is always the answer.”

The One Plus One by Jojo Moyes

81ZultmqXDL__SL1500_If you are looking for a great read, then try Jojo’s Moyes new book – The One Plus One.

Jojo was a journalist for 10 years, 9 of those were spent at the Independent, but since 2002 she has been writing novels. Her first book was Sheltering Rain and she has gone on to write eleven more…She has won the Romantic Novelist’s Award twice and the book before her latest ‘Me Before You’ has sold over 3 million copies and has been nominated for Book of the Year at the UK Galaxy Book Awards.

People are so engaged with her stories because as opposed to just being your run of the mill chick-lit, Jojo writes about ordinary people struggling with ordinary things, and her audience therefore relate to the characters.

The World Book Night Book Club wrote the following about ‘The One Plus One’: I want you to read this book, indeed to read all of Jojo Moyes’ books, because they tell truths about modern life. If you’re a sentient, empathic, living, breathing human I would urge you to give it a go.

So what is the book about?

One single mum
With two jobs and two children, Jess Thomas does her best day after day. But it’s hard on your own. And sometimes you take risks you shouldn’t. Because you have to…

One chaotic family
Jess’s gifted, quirky daughter Tanzie is brilliant with numbers, but without a helping hand she’ll never get the chance to shine. And Nicky, Jess’s teenage stepson, can’t fight the bullies alone. Sometimes Jess feels like they’re sinking…

One handsome stranger
Into their lives comes Ed Nicholls, a man whose life is in chaos, and who is running from a deeply uncertain future. But he has time on his hands. He knows what it’s like to be lonely. And he wants to help…

One unexpected love story
The One Plus One is a captivating and unconventional romance about two lost souls meeting in the most unlikely circumstances.

Is there such a thing as an Amicable Divorce?

shutterstock_75733573Gwyneth Paltrow, can have a marmite affect in regards to how people feel about her, ‘love her’ or ‘hate her’! This was never more true than when she wrote on her Goop site that her husband Chris Martin – lead singer in Coldplay and she were ‘Consciously Uncoupling.’

The world press mocked their choice of expression for stating that they were consciously uncoupling as opposed to just separating or divorcing, but you have to ask yourself with children involved, is it such a bad idea to try and take a more spiritual approach to divorcing, to keep things amicable and even stay friends?

Many of us are no longer surprised when the latest Hollywood star couple announce that their ‘happy ever after’ has come to an end, but Chris and Gwyneth are hardly leaders of the pack when it comes to amicable separations:

Bruce Willis and Demi Moore, made a point of embracing a friendship following their split and this was extended to new partners as they came along, their blended families even holidayed together.

Courteney Cox and David Arquette separated in 2010; at first David was very vocal on the topic, whilst Courteney maintained a very dignified silence. But their joint goal was to remain friends so they could provide stability for their daughter Coco and could co-parent effectively. They were married for over 10 years and they were both satisfied that they had tried hard, but they were just different people wanting different things. They separated in 2010 and even then did not rush things, not divorcing until May 13. Courteney recently said “When you love someone, you want them to be happy, even if it’s not with you.”

Marriage statistics from the ONS bear out the point that often people just grow apart, and that it is not necessarily one big thing that splits people up. In fact only one in seven divorces is sited as being because of adultery. But sadly 42% of marriages will end in divorce, in 2012 in England and Wales that translated to 13 divorces being granted an hour…Compared to 20 years ago, divorce rates are actually falling, splits are most likely to happen between the 4th and 8th year of marriage. 48% of people divorcing will have at least one child at home under the age of 16 so you can see how important it is to remain civil. Although the general trend of divorcing is falling, there is one area that is bucking the trend – the over 60’s. There is a 73% increase since 1991 of men over the age of 60 getting divorced, and the stats are similar for women.

Times have changed, and there are many reasons now thought to contribute to a high rate of divorce in the 60+ age group. People now live longer, once they have raised their children there is still lots of time left to enjoy retirement and they don’t want to do it with someone they no longer love or have anything in common with. Women now work more and so are more likely to have the resources to start again. The stigma surrounding divorce is no longer so strong and with the rise of internet dating, people believe they may meet someone new.

Another couple that have split quite recently and have treated the experience as a positive opportunity to change, grow and learn new roles within a partnerships is Miranda Kerr and Orlando Bloom. They were together for six years, and have both spoken lovingly about each other post-split. Miranda said “Well, we are very good. We speak every day. We’re really close, we’re going to be a family for ever and we do really love one another.”

Despite these celebrities seemingly having everything – luxury lifestyles, dream job, money etc, they are only human and sometimes the complications of their careers – too much time apart contributes to the breakdown of a relationship.

Despite these celebrities uncoupling in a conscious manner, there are times when divorce is just too painful and difficult for us to be oh so rational. So if you are separating from a partner or going through a divorce then get in touch with us today. At Psychic Sight we have many empathetic readers, some of whom will have gone through divorces of their own that can guide you during this difficult time. There is no reason why you cannot go on to have a happy and fulfilled future.

Relationship Alchemy

shutterstock_26495758I have been reading a fascinating text called The Book of Alchemy by Francis Melville, I thought I would share some interesting extracts about The Great Work on the topic of Separation.

“The Great Work or Opus Magnum, is the term used by alchemists to describe the conscious effort to achieve the highest state of purity. The term is applied to both the Outer Work, the perfection of the Philosopher’s Stone, and to the Inner Work, the achievement of divine consciousness. In order to proceed along this path, the initiate must understand, intellectually at first, the nature of cosmic reality”.

Hermes: Thrice Greatest, Hermes or Hermes Trismegistus is considered to have been an early link to divine illuminated adepts such as Moses, Enoch, Plato and Pythagoras. He was a legendary genius of alchemy.

Legend says that Hermes carried a plain wand, one day he came across two snakes that were fighting. He used his wand to separate the snakes, surprisingly following his actions the snakes acted harmoniously and coiled themselves around the wand – forming a caduceus.

The lesson in this legend is that we can identify with the Hermes within ourselves and become reconciled:

Imagine “A man and a woman are in conflict. The man defends himself with sword and shield, while the woman has an eagle on her arm, ready to fly at the man. Hermes separates the polarized couple, armed with a caduceus in each hand, reminding them that they are both responsible for reconciling the polarities within themselves”.

When our souls and spirits are not in harmony a separation occurs. Rather than using the man’s sword or the woman’s eagle as weapons against each other, we must instead see that both symbols represent the element of air which corresponds to breathing, intellect and cognitive imagination. We must harness these elements and use them to resolve our conflicts, so that we can come back together intertwined as a caduceus.

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The Other Woman

poster-for-the-movie-the-other-womanCameron Diaz is often thought of as a non-serious romantic comedy actress, and it is true that she has played the lead role in some films of this genre such as My Best Friend’s Wedding, The Holiday and Bad Teacher. But she has also acted in more serious films, such as Being John Malkovich, Gangs of New York, Vanilla Sky and There’s Something About Mary where she received Golden Globe Award nominations.

Cameron’s early career was as a model, in fact she got her first acting role in film The Mask by accident, when an Agent for Elite (her modelling agency), had met the film producers of The Mask and knew they were looking for a female lead. Cameron started acting lessons once she had secured the part, the film went on to be one of the top 10 grossing films of 1994 and Cameron was launched as a sex symbol!

For a few years after The Mask Cameron mainly did independent films, and it was only after she returned to more commercial movies that her box office and financial success took off.

Between 1998 and 2009 she appeared in many films – Things You Can Tell Just By Looking At Her, Any Given Sunday, Very Bad Things…She also played a major part in the adaptation of Charlie’s Angels. In fact she became only the 3rd actress to receive a $20 million fee for her role in Charlie’s Angel’s: Full Throttle. She also voiced Princess Fiona’s voice for Shrek which earned her $10 million. She went on to act in In Her Shoes, My Sister’s Keeper, The Box and Knight and Day.

As well as her Golden Globe Award nominations, she has won the New York Film Critics Best Lead Actress Award for There’s Something About Mary, she is a BAFTA Nominee and in 2013 she was named the highest paid actress over 40 in Hollywood.

Not satisfied with just being an Actress she has recently written a book – called the The Body Book, in it she shares her formula for becoming happier, healthier, and stronger. The book is a positive, essential guide that is grounded in science and inspired by her personal experience. Cameron knows she is a role model for millions of women all over the world. But, as she’d be the first to admit, she hasn’t always been as health-conscious as she is now.

Over the past fifteen years, she has discovered that what she eats is inseparably linked to how she feels and looks. That knowledge – that nutrition impacts life – fuelled her hunger to educate herself about the best ways to care for her body. In The Body Book, Cameron shares what she’s learned and offers a comprehensive guide for women to look and feel their best.

Despite having many happy endings in films, Cameron’s love live has not been plain sailing, she has had a number of high profile long-term relationships, but has not settled yet. Between 1995 and 1998 she dated Matt Dillon, she then had a relationship with Jared Leto, whom she got engaged to in 2000, but in 2003 they broke off their four year relationship. Justin Timberlake and Cameron then dated seriously between 2003 and 2006 until the relationship broke down; her last known relationship was with Alex Rodriguez which started in July 2010 but had ended by September 2011.

She has kept busy since then and 2014 sees the release of 3 films, a remake of Annie where she plays Miss Hannigan, Sex Tape where she is back opposite Jason Segel and The Other Woman.

The Other Woman is a comedy and is out in UK cinemas from 23rd April 2014: After discovering her boyfriend (Nikolaj Coster-Waldau – Game of Thrones) is married, Amber (Cameron Diaz) tries to get her ruined life back on track. But when she accidentally meets the wife (Kate) he’s been cheating on played by (Leslie Mann), she realises they have much in common, and her sworn enemy becomes her greatest friend. When yet another affair is discovered Carly – (Kate Upton – Sports Illustrated Model), all three women team up to plot mutual revenge on their cheating, lying, three-timing man. Taylor Kinney (Chicago Fire) also plays in the film as the brother of Kate and he might actually be worthy of Amber’s affections. Nicki Minaj makes her acting debut as one of Amber’s friends, the only one not sleeping with her cheating boyfriend!

Harnessing the Law of Attraction, by Robbie (PIN: 3443)

Harnessing the Law of AttractionThoughts are things and they are very potent. Your thoughts are what have created your life circumstances and when you learn to harness that power and deliberately create your life, you will open your eyes to a whole new world of possibilities.
The first thing you must do to take control is to realise where you are and why you are there. Your filter system of thought was largely created in the first three cycles of your life (a cycle is seven years). (more…)

Fall in Love for Life, by Barbara ‘Cutie’ Cooper

Fall in Love for LifeIf you are struggling in a relationship, or just wondering what the secrets are to a long and happy partnership, then you could read Barbaba ‘Cutie’ Cooper’s memoir – Fall in Love for Life. She was married to her husband ‘Harry’ for 73 years and with the help of her granddaughters jotted down her pearls of wisdom.

In this memoir meets relationship advice book, 94-year-old Cutie Cooper chronicles the challenges and triumphs of her seven decade-long marriage and then pulls out sage tips and actionable advice on the art of fighting fair, knowing if you’ve met ‘the one,’ raising children while maintaining your sense of self, and everything else that goes into staying blissfully bonded. In a world of 72-day celebrity marriages, a 73-year marriage is nearly unimaginable. Against all odds, (more…)

The History of Valentines Day

History of Valentines DayThe history of Valentines Day and it’s patron saint is clouded in mystery, we know that February has long since been a month of romance and that the day contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman traditions.

The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred.

One legend suggests that Valentine was a priest during the third century in Rome. Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage for young men, as he (more…)

The Year of the Horse

horse_year02.cdrChinese New Year starts on 31st January 2014; this year is celebrated as the Year of the Horse. People with birthdays in the below date ranges are said to have been born in the ‘Year of the Horse’: (more…)

Twin Flames

twin flamesTwin Flames are documented by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium, stating that humans originally consisted of two people within one body – one head but with two faces, four arms and four legs and that they were very happy in this state. However it is thought that Zeus (King of the Gods) feared their happiness and confidence and so in an act of revenge he split each human in two, leaving them forever searching for the other half that would make them feel complete. (more…)

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